WHAT CAN WE LEARN (and teach children) FROM THE THINGS IN OUR LIFE THAT WE CAN AND CANNOT CONTROL.
Much of the anxiety that we experience on a daily basis is caused by our need for certainty. Even though we know rationally that there are very few things in life that we can control, we often fall into the spiral of WORRY. The think and rethink, somehow believing that if we think about something enough, we have control over it. This is not true. We have to teach this lesson and practice recognizing our thinking errors.
We cannot control other people.
We cannot control what they do.
We cannot control what they say.
We cannot control how they feel.
BUT we can control what we do.
We can control what we say.
We can control how others make us feel.
The best we can do is to learn how to influence others through communication. We can learn from our interactions but can only control one half of the equation.
Let go of trying to control and instead focus on being brave enough to NOT try to control things that you cannot. Once you accept that you can only do your best, you are free to try new things, form new relationships and let go of hurts from your past.
Remember: Courage always before capability.